Look At What Someone Does, Not What They Say

The words Actions speak louder than words makes me think of something my Mother always reminds me of. It’s easy for good talkers to make something sound attractive, but it’s the actions that really show someone’s expression, love, and character. Someone could be very charismatic in their words, but may not be very kind. Someone who may not be the best talker may express a kind heart through their actions. I was reflecting over the year, and really it’s been a pretty good darn year. There was only one situation that made me spend more time praying over it and letting it be. I’m a believer that everything happens for a reason.

I remember talking to my Mum, and she was telling me how everyone always says I am such a gentle person, but she was saying she knows I am actually very hard inside. She was sharing with me the importance of expressing things in a way that’s considerate of others, and to express them without allowing emotions to get in the way. Most people would say they can’t imagine me being angry, and it made me think of when I got upset at someone this year. Even thinking back to it, makes me feel upset at myself for losing my temper. At the same time, I think back and think, it’s already happened, just let it be.

In some cases, I tend to bottle my feelings up. However, it’s not healthy as they can build up and pour out all of a sudden. It’s important to not let emotions get in the way in certain situations. They can make us take certain things too personally when it’s not necessary at all. It can make us care about certain things, that we don’t need to spend time caring so much about. In the situation that occurred, I reflect back and think about how there were things the person said that weren’t personal, but I took it too much so. The person has been kind and considerate towards me, and this was really shown through their actions. That’s what’s important.

It makes me think of the post I wrote about how you decide your attitude, no matter what the situation is. We really have so much power over our thoughts, emotions and actions more than we know. It’s such an important reminder to tell ourselves. Sometimes, if we let that power go, we can easily lose control of it and allow thoughts and feelings that aren’t true to build up. Although the title reads, look at what someone does, not what they say, words are powerful. However, in order to see a person from their heart, it can be felt from their actions. Words are from the lips, actions are from the heart. Rashida Costa

Art by August Ro

4 thoughts on “Look At What Someone Does, Not What They Say

  1. This is so true. Sometimes people can say one thing but not mean it at all – their actions show them to be a completely different person. I guess you usually find this out after having spent some time with someone. I’m not one to lose my temper like you. But sometimes things just get overwhelming and you simply need to express yourself out loud – and sometimes these are the moments people will always remember.

    1. Thank you for your comment Mabel, and Happy new year! I’m glad you can relate. I definitely feel that too, and that’s very true, a person’s actions show their intentions and character.

  2. I love this post + and as someone who’s a little older + I’m going to pass on this Tupac quote [the clean version…lol] because you are correct + you are the master and commander of your own ship [so-to-speak] + and only you have the power and control over that domain

    “You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the [bleep] on.” — Tupac Shakur

    1. Thank you so much for sharing this, it’s so wise and such an important reminder. I think when we over think situations, they’re often things that we just need to let go of, otherwise, the thoughts are just taking space and energy in our mind.

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