How To Fall In Love With Yourself

89025225495079.56346302161b9Happy New Year to my dear fellow bloggers. Wishing you all a beautiful year ahead filled with wonderful memories, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for supporting me and following my online journey.  I was looking back at the first post I wrote in 2017, and it was a post about love. It would make sense to start off the year with a message about love. I recently watched a documentary that talked about how advertising can make us feel a level of dissatisfaction in our lives.  It essentially tells us that we aren’t good enough, by telling us that there is always something we should buy to fix a fault. It simply isn’t true.

Self-love allows our beautiful self to flourish. If we are to love those around us, we must love ourselves first. A time I was feeling a deep distance from any self love was a few years ago when I went through a lot of negativity and anxiety. During that period of my life I self harmed, ate poorly, lost a lot of weight and was having regular panic attacks every week. I wasn’t loving myself at all and there was the constant thought of “I’m not good enough.” In 2017, I wanted to make a change in my life by staying more in the present, being more grateful and to stop having panic attacks. Positivity truly brings out the best in you.

Do more of what you love. It makes sense to do more of what makes your heart feel happy. If you like walking, writing, singing, reading or traveling, then why not do it as much as you can? Surround your life with your favourite things and people. Something I love to do, is to read at the park or go to the movies alone.

Be kind and gentle to yourself. Speak to yourself gently and treat yourself with respect. The world that we create within ourselves, will reflect in the world we live with others. If we are always judging ourselves and have low self esteem, we’re more likely to judge others. If we are always loving and kind to ourselves, we’re more likely to be kind to others.

Think and speak uplifting words. Think words of gratitude and compliment yourself. Recognise your qualities, and say them to yourself, whether it’s “I’m kind hearted, considerate, understanding, hardworking and thoughtful.” Focus on your strengths and allow it to motivate you.

Tell yourself you’re beautiful. I used to think it would be a bit vain for someone to say to themselves “I’m beautiful,” but it’s something we should all tell ourselves every day. You’re beautiful heart, mind, body and personality. When I tell myself this, it makes me feel confident and it makes me accept myself for who I am.

Be true to yourself. When we aren’t being our true selves, there is a level of discomfort. It makes me think of when I tried to be loud or laugh at things I didn’t really feel was funny, it would make me feel uncomfortable. Embrace your sense of humour, be honest with yourself and embrace your own personality.

Forgive yourself for mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and we’ve all been hurt or hurt someone else. We’ve all made mistakes somewhere at sometime, but it’s important to forgive yourself, let it go and most importantly, learn from it and allow it to let you grow. If you keep holding on to bad memories, it only hurts you in the end.

Listen to your heart. A lot of unhappiness I’ve felt often happened when I forced myself to stay in a situation that I wasn’t feeling good in. This happened a lot in my unhappy period, and looking back, I was placing myself in a cage. Do what feels right, and listen to your heart. Strive to feel a sense of light, feed positivity and you will attract the right path.

Psalm 139:13-15

13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Art by Monica Barengo

14 thoughts on “How To Fall In Love With Yourself

  1. This needed to be written. Thank you for speaking some truth into our lives❤️ Happy New Year!

  2. I loved your post! All great reminders, self-love truly is so important thank you for being vulnerable with us. May you be blessed with a wonderful 2018. I have a post coming out tomorrow about the new year…I would love if you checked it out!

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