Heart To Heart Talk On Anxiety And Panic Attacks


627d23a970be0290752204e918d938d7This is quite a personal post for me, but I wanted to share it with you in case anyone reading has also felt this way. I truly believe that this year I have improved in terms of my mental health, and I want to share a snippet of my experience with you. I remember I used to cry every week, every few days. The only way to express this is that it drained my soul. I used to feel a certain level of fear when I knew I would be going out. It felt as if I was inside a giant birdcage, unable to set myself free. I’d have a panic attack several times a month and it was debilitating.

I have far less panic attacks than ever before, and I wanted to share some changes I made in my life in order to take control. What made me want to write about this, was because I recently had a panic attack after a long period of not having one, and I was experiencing suicidal thoughts again. In the past, this would happen too often. I can’t express how important it is to speak out about it even when it feels incredibly hard. This time I realised how much more I love and care for myself, and knew I needed to go to the counselor again since my last time going four years ago. It’s never wrong to seek help or speak out about how you’re feeling with someone you trust.

If you ever feel you are having mental health problems, please see a doctor. It’s very easy for someone to throw the term anxiety, depression and having a panic attack around and self diagnose. It’s easy for someone to say “I’m feeling depressed” but they may or may not be just feeling sad. What I’ve found helpful is to write an anxiety diary for one week, to see what makes me feel anxious during the day and to decide what I can do about it. The best thing to do is to see a healthcare professional. They would have a talk with me, let me take a mental health test and ask me questions on my experience. This will clarify many things.

The advice I received from the counselor was very helpful, and the counselor told me that at the core of anxiety, there is always a reason. I found this extremely important, because there are times where I forget that. One of the ways I’ve improved my anxiety these past two months have been going out for long walks for 2-3 hours. I finally bought new trainers recently, after walking in my boots and wearing their poor soles out. This has really helped with my breathing, appreciation for being alive in this world and just learning to face my fears and go outside of my comfort zone. It also releases stress and allows me to think properly.

It’s so important to love yourself and be kinder to myself. We can sometimes be the hardest on ourselves. We can be kind and loving to other people, but forget to be kind and loving to ourselves. This is so true for myself, because I found that negative self talk is the same as talking to someone unkindly. No one deserves to be hurt. The more love and kindness we pour into ourselves, the more we pour out into the world. Our thoughts create our life. Creating a habit of gratitude has truly helped more than I can express, and realising the power of our thoughts and how our thoughts create the life we want to live, makes me realise that we all deserve to live a good life.

Remember to eat healthy and good foods and drink enough water. I can’t emphasise enough how much food and keeping hydrated affects our mood, mind and body. A few years ago I would resist going outdoors even when the ones I love were constantly giving me advice to go outside for a short walk. The more I resisted, the more fear it built. Now, when I go for a walk, it’s natural and I don’t feel any fear anymore. I remember being invited to networking events in Sydney, and I’d always turn them down. I’d miss the opportunity to meet amazing people. We create opportunities for ourselves, when we face our fears. It makes life more exciting to go outside of your comfort zone.

If you ever feel depressed, anxious or you have a panic attack, don’t be ashamed or embarrassed to seek help. A few years ago, I was feeling negative and attracting negative people and situations into my life. Remember, your thoughts have so much power. The more good thoughts we have, the more we attract good things into our lives. It reflects the law of attraction and the radiating power of positivity, love and kindness. Surround yourself with good people and be at present in this world with the feeling that makes you feel good. If someone is being unkind, don’t resist or react, just let them be. The way we react to things comes down to ourselves.

I’ve recently been reading a book with these wise words and I want to share some with you. We have so much love to give, and the more that we give, the more we receive. Life is mirroring back to you what you are holding inside you. Take a moment to think about all that nature gives to you every single day so that you can live. And yet nature never asks for anything in return. That is true giving. “A feeling that greater possessions, no matter what kind they may be, will of themselves bring contentment or happiness, is a misunderstanding. No person, place, or thing can give you happiness. They may give you a cause for happiness and a feeling of contentment, but the Joy of Living comes from within.” – Genevieve Behrend (1881-1960).

You deserve all the love, happiness and joy in the world. 

Photography from Mary Salas

23 thoughts on “Heart To Heart Talk On Anxiety And Panic Attacks

  1. Aw Katie I’m glad you opened up to me about this last week and now to your blog. I agree, the way you see the world directly affects how you live in it. I’m honestly so thankful to be a part of your life (even though we only see each other once a week haha), your friendship has truly influenced me in terms of all the things you were talking about here of kindness and positivity. Your resilience in going through all these negative thoughts and feelings, yet still having one of the purest hearts I’ve ever come across is so admirable. Keep it up, because there’s still so much more in store for you – I know you’ll go far in life! I’m always here for you, and I’m sure all your readers are as well. x

  2. Oh Sabina, reading your comment made me tear up! I’m so grateful to have you as a friend, you’re such an amazing and one of a kind person. It makes me happy that I can see you each week for our weekly chats :) I feel like it would of been different this year if I hadn’t of met you! Sending you warm hugs xx

  3. Katie, Thank you so much for your lovely Blogs. This one spoke to me directly and motivated me to share your Blog with my readers about dealing with learning differences and how they cause anxiety attacks and depression to be a constant in our lives. You have a wonderful gift with words. I also included your link to Zoella’s Vlog in which she shared some personal stories along with ideas for both sufferers and close friends who may be witnessing the suffering.

    1. Hi Linda, thank you so much for your kind comment. I really believe anxiety and depression can gradually become less affecting in our lives, once we accept that we have it and create an action plan. I appreciate you linking my blog x

  4. This is such a great post about anxiety! Thank you for sharing it with all of us – you have some great advice!

    JT – Panic Attack Awareness

  5. Thank you for sharing this! I’ve dealt with really bad anxiety and depression for years and years. I’ve improved so much with my depression but I still struggle with my anxiety. I never thought about writing down all of my anxious thoughts but I think I’ll give that a try. It sounds like it might help. Thanks again for sharing!

  6. Oh… This post is such a comfort… I am dealing with anxiety attacks quite often and sometimes I feel so outta place. Like I am the weird, annoying girl that is complaining. But this gave me the feeling that I am not weird. I am not the only one :) Thank you for sharing!

  7. I have been feeling anxious lately, I have been really busy and think it finally took its tole on me, my Mum also gave me the advice to go for walks and I find just thinking about how I would feel when on the walk helps to relax me. Good advice! Thank you for being so brave and open to talk about hard emotions xx

  8. I hope you’re feeling much better. Walking really helps, I find it calms my breathing and allows me to think more clearly. Thank you so much for your comment!

  9. I’m glad you’re doing so good hon x
    I recently got diagnosed with severe panic disorder and it’s just quite a bit of a…uh hassle haha. Writing is something that’s helping me an awful lot! I’m going to take you up on your advice about taking a walk. Thanks for the piece, sweetheart. It was a lovely read x

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